Dialogue is the best option to correct inappropriate behaviors in our children, but is sometimes necessary to punish. We offer educational and useful to do so alternatives.
In the task of educating our children we are always faced with difficult situations for various reasons; one of them is bad behavior, either occasional or regular. To redirects them we can use different ways: dialogue, reinforce the right behaviors or punishing those who want to extinguish.
Each of these options has its advantages and disadvantages, so it is best able to combine the right way to get one of the kids appropriate behavior as possible. We must not forget that they are children and therefore your emotional and self-control ability is less developed than adults, so we can not expect a performance perfect.
A key factor when trying to modify disruptive behavior of children is to remember that no two children are alike. If something works for one, for another you do not necessarily have to enforce. Education is not an exact science. There are no magic formulas that always result.
When to tackle bad behavior of the child?
From the first months of life of our children, we can show our dissatisfaction with his wrong attitudes, since they are able to differentiate our types of intonation. Anyway, for almost the first two years we must be aware that the child does not understand the reasons for a fight nor a punishment, so it is best to simply demonstrate via intonation anger without significantly aggressive, to keep the small feel fear toward support of his figures.
After two years as children begin to greatly expand their understanding and linguistic expression, so, from here, we must go explaining the rules, punishments and their reasons with language appropriate to their age. Also, from this time we can already start with some simple techniques of behavior modification if necessary.
The ideal situation is to improve the wrong attitudes of our children through dialogue or, failing that, by applying a positive alternative to their behavior; but there are some situations in which they must inexorably punish:
If misbehavior causes him greater satisfaction than any reward we can provide to avoid such behavior.
If the child is having a behavior that jeopardized their safety or that of others we must quickly punish him and not allow it to pass something more serious, which also end in punishment, but more severe.
Finally, parents should keep in mind that the punishment has to be something exceptional, that the child will assume a different situation, so that you understand that your conduct has been excessive. If the child is punished too often, the only thing you get is that you get used to them and they lose their usefulness.